To start, I apologize for skipping a week to blog, unannounced. I actually started a new school semester! Yay me! Well as some may have noticed, I’ve tried to stay current on posts by posting every Wednesday. That is going to be my new schedule.
Being the bigger person,
Recently, in the past few days, I had an encounter with a woman who was older and more qualified than me at school. She was the person I had to speak with in order to make something else at school work out better than it was.
For starters, I am always nice and carry myself with class, as I should. It is very important to always be kind to people regardless of any circumstances you may be faced with. There is no need to try to “display your strength” when you need someone on your side! But when someone tries to prey on your weaknesses or kindness, yes be stern and hold your ground, but also be kind in doing so.
Well, our meeting was bad from the start! As soon as I walked in, smiling and kind, she never smiled and looked bothered already. Her first words were for me to recount my side of the issue. I did so without any hesitation. From there, we were going over certain details and I explained the same exact things I had just explained. She abruptly stopped me and accused me of “changing my story”! By that point, I knew I wasn’t going to get anywhere in her mind.
She explained certain situations a teacher was going through, as if that had anything to do with the issue at hand! Seriously? But regardless, I responded back explaining I had been through those circumstances recently and I didn’t see how that affected this issue at hand?
Throughout our whole meeting, I was called inconsiderate, needed to “be an adult”, a liar, and probably other things I literally just shut out after the first 5 minutes of this conversation.
Towards the end of this meeting, she informed me of the process in which I had to take with my teacher. I swear she should’ve just said that in the first place. Then maybe she would not have wasted any of my time.
So here’s what I did, I was the bigger person.
I couldn’t believe that she had this all planned out before I even got there. At least that’s the only explanation as to why she acted that way.
Folks, I personally do NOT care what level of education you have or job title you hold. You do not get away with things like that!
So, upon the closing of this meeting, I stood up, looked directly in her eyes and said: “I apologize that you felt I changed my story. I didn’t intend for you to feel that way. But I assure you that the problem here is not my integrity! So please, do not ever call me a liar again. I am sympathetic for my teachers dilemmas, but yet I fail to see what that has to do with this issue at hand. If this issue does not get resolved, then I guess it is a learning experience and for me to know what teachers not to take next time. But the reason I’m here is to fix this problem because I am an adult! Thank you very much for anything you felt that you helped me with today!”
The entire time I was there and the entire time I spoke to her, I was completely calm. I knew what was the truth and I don’t need to explain myself further if I’m not going to be heard or treated fairly. Thats not right! So be the bigger person and allow these people to say what they have to say but DO stand up for yourself when you know you’re being treated horribly unfair!
I hope that this blog post will encourage you to know what to do in these situations. Has there ever been a time in your life where this has happened to you? Or at least along the same lines? If so, share your story in a comment or message!
The Learning Mama